Asked about skeptics who question the legitimacy of her relationship with longtime partner Christine Marinoni, the "Sex and the City" star, who is currently promoting her new Broadway show "Wit," told The New York Times:
"I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ĎIíve been straight and Iíve been gay, and gay is better.í And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people itís not, but for me itís a choice, and you donít get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if itís a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesnít matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not."Nixon then went on to note:
"Why canít it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems weíre just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I donít think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didnít realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men Iíve been out with."Prior to her relationship with Marinoni, an education activist, Nixon was involved with English professor Danny Mozes, with whom she has two children.
America Blog writer John Aravosis was among those to criticize Nixon's choice of words. "It's not a 'choice,' unless you consider my opting to date a guy with brown hair versus a guy with blonde hair a 'choice,'" he writes. "It's only a choice among flavors I already like... every religious right hatemonger is now going to quote this woman every single time they want to deny us our civil rights."
I'm no expert on the subject of the biology of homosexuality, but if I had to guess, I would guess that she is right: for some gays, it's a choice, for others it is not.
Incidentally, John Aravosis is a major douchebag. He is extremely nasty.